bloomfield parents guide

International School Registered with ICT Regulatory Authority ( Private Educational Institutions Regulatory Authority )

First of all we need to understand that children are not like us adults. They are rather children

who are not only smaller in size but also have their own world in which they live in. They

perceive things differently from adults. Children are a lot

honest and truthful until they learn to be dishonest from

adults. In order to bring up a psychologically healthy child, we

as parents must change our ways or life styles to a certain

extend. Of course, there are certain bad habits in all of us that

we cannot quit but in that case, we must at least try to hide

them from children or at least admit them as wrong in front of

our children. Like as I said earlier that we cannot rear a child to

perfection but at least we can do a lot of things to bring up a

psychologically healthy child. Now here are some of the tips

that can help us as parents in bringing up a productive adult

from our baby. Don’t lie to any one in front of your child. Don’t

make promises to them that you cannot fulfill. Don’t tell your

child to convey a false message on your behalf to another

adult and especially when your child knows that it is not true. If you want your child to respect

you and accept you as a role model then be very careful while dealing with your child’s

educational institution’s rules. For example: By not paying your school fee on time and by

giving lame excuses to the school authorities will definitely destroy your child’s mental health.

Your child will develop a great conflict in his or her mind and may end up as a deviant member

of our society. Give your child the security of unconditional love. Don’t tell them that you will

only love them if they get good grades. Instead, tell them that everybody will love them if you

work hard. Don’t disgrace your child in front of others. Instead, try to correct your child politely

and privately. Support your child even if he or she fails to meet your expectation. On the other

hand, if your child tends to develop bad habits such as not working hard in his or her studies,

skipping school or not doing his or her homework on time, be strict and firm while forcing your

child at this early age to take his or her school matters seriously. Force your child to sit and do

his or her homework regularly. If you show lenience in school matters, your child may become a

weak student for the rest of his or her life. This is the time to enforce a strict school routine on

your child. Always consider your child’s school routine as your first priority. Follow your child’s

school schedules such as exams date-sheet, strictly. Your child’s educational goals should be

your first priority and all family gatherings and functions should be your second priority. If you

wish your child to achieve his or her educational goals then you must not let your child skip or

reschedule important school days in order to attend any family function. Provide your child all

the materials required at the school on time. Appreciate your child on doing some thing

constructive. Encourage your child to be honest and hard working but never repeat your

instructive statements in an impolite manner. Beating up your child over minor mistakes will

never help. Don’t pressurize your child to study all the time. Instead tell them to study only when

you are willing to sit with them to help them with their homework. Help them with their school

work and always check homework diaries to stay vigilant of your child’s needs and

performance. Never interrogate your child like policemen. Don’t always suspect your child.

Instead, always let your child speak. Don’t ask your child too many questions about what he or

she did at school or at a friend’s house. Never ask your child about what others do in school or

your child will learn to spy on others and make up false stories about others. Instead, let your

child tell on his or her own. Never ask your child a negative question like: Did anybody hit you

or hurt you? Your children will always tell on their own if some one hurt them. Just teach them

to take their complaints to the teachers. Never blame others for your child’s ills. If your child

secures low grades, never put blame on his or her teacher. If your child does some thing wrong,

never blame others for teaching him or her a bad manner. Instead, correct your child and let him

or her take the responsibility. Never feel that every body is your child’s enemy. Your child’s

teacher is always trying to help your child. Always be thankful to your child’s teachers. Don’t

speak too high of your child. Don’t consider your child a genius. Don’t expect perfection in your

child’s behavior. Instead ask your children’s teachers where your children stand. That is the true

picture and you must accept it. Remember, your child’s teacher has nothing to gain by telling

you a lie. In fact, most of the teachers hesitate to tell you that your child is of below average

intelligence. Don’t keep high expectations from your child. Don’t just focus on your child’s

worldly knowledge; focus on your child’s Islamic moral values as well. Don’t expect your child

to learn every thing from the school in a short period of time. Learning is in fact a very slow

process. Success only comes from Allah and we can only do our best to achieve certain goals.

Correct your child if he or she shows signs of selfishness and encourage your child to help

others. Don’t compare your child with other children who get better grades than your child.

Instead encourage your child to work hard and appreciate your child’s strengths and help them

with their weaknesses. No child in this world is perfect. Every child has different strengths and

weaknesses. Every child has different talents. Never profess your child to fight back when

some other child tends to hurt your child. Instead, advise your child to take the issue to his or

her teacher and quit the company of such violent child. Civilized people don’t raise their voices

or involve themselves into physical violence over any of such issues. Instead, they humbly

procure justice from the higher authorities by filing written complaints. Don’t blame others for

your child’s ills. School’s staff is not your child’s enemy in fact they are working hard to help

your child in becoming a better human. Always make your child take the blame of his or her ills

on themselves. All children must learn to take the responsibility of his or her own faults. If your

child tends to miss school or shows no interest in studies, it is definitely not the fault of the

school. Don’t blame the school’s environment. Instead, be very strict with your child when he or

she tends to miss school without a valid reason. When it comes to school and studies always

show strictness to your child. If your child is not doing well in school, never tell the teacher how

to teach or what to do. Instead, ask the teacher how you could help the child to do better in

school. You can also get guidance by consulting the school counselor. The school’s staff is

always willing to help you if you act upon their advices. If you receive a complaint about your

child, don’t get defensive by trying to cover your child’s faults. School authorities only try to

help the child by notifying the parents. You should correct the child on your own or consult the

School Counselor for guidance. Bad habits such as lying, cheating or stealing must be dealt

with immediately. The teachers are not allowed to correct the child by giving them severe

punishments without the consent of the parents. Don’t ever disgrace your child’s teacher even

in her absence. Negative comments about your child’s teacher will destroy your child’s learning

abilities. Don’t entertain your child’s complaints against his or her teacher. Instead, always tell

your child that his or her teacher is always right and we must always obey our teachers. In case

you have a difference of opinion with your child’s teacher you must contact the teacher privately

to discuss the issue. If you still disagree with the school’s policies then your best bet is to

transfer your child to another school in a civilized manner without arguing with the school’s

staff members. My final advice to all the parents of the students of Bloomfield is to keep a

positive attitude towards the staff members. Don’t waste your time and efforts trying to find

flaws in this school’s education system. This school has a well thought out system that is

effective yet simple at a very low cost. The staff members of this institution are trained to work

hard and help your child in becoming an educated citizen of this society. Maintaining a

respectable and friendly relationship with our teachers will definitely enhance the productivity of

your child